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by constantine
Short insights from Constantine that you can put immediately into action for yourself, your organisation and your people.
BUILDING EMOTIONAL LITERACY BY OWNING OUR FEELINGS. EP 2: Thought Diffusion
1. NOT suppressing our feelings
2. Articulate them – write them down and say them out loud
3. Ask yourself, “would I say that to a friend???”
4. Disassociate: instead of how you say them as you did in step 2, say the same feelings out loud starting with, “I notice my mind say that I am (feeling) ....Show More
2. Articulate them – write them down and say them out loud
3. Ask yourself, “would I say that to a friend???”
4. Disassociate: instead of how you say them as you did in step 2, say the same feelings out loud starting with, “I notice my mind say that I am (feeling) ....Show More
BUILDING EMOTIONAL LITERACY BY OWNING OUR FEELINGS. EP 2: Thought Diffusion
1. NOT suppressing our feelings
2. Articulate them – write them down and say them out loud
3. Ask yourself, “would I say that to a friend???”
4. Disassociate: instead of how you say them as you did in step 2, say the same feelings out loud starting with, “I notice my mind say that I am (feeling) ....
2. Articulate them – write them down and say them out loud
3. Ask yourself, “would I say that to a friend???”
4. Disassociate: instead of how you say them as you did in step 2, say the same feelings out loud starting with, “I notice my mind say that I am (feeling) ....
Build Emotional Literacy by Owning Your Feelings. PT 1: MENTAL DISASSOCIATION
How we bypass feelings:
1. Suppressing by pushing down and aside
2. Escaping through mind numbing activity
3. Acting on it by dumping on others, such as sending a reactive email.
1. Recognise our thought
2. "De-collapsing" 'what happened' from 'our story'
3. Do I have evidence that supports my story?
4. Ask yourself, "what is the worst case scenario?"
1. Suppressing by pushing down and aside
2. Escaping through mind numbing activity
3. Acting on it by dumping on others, such as sending a reactive email.
1. Recognise our thought
2. "De-collapsing" 'what happened' from 'our story'
3. Do I have evidence that supports my story?
4. Ask yourself, "what is the worst case scenario?"
ROMANCING SUCCESS: Episode 3.1: HOLISTIC GOAL SETTING: “How is your wheel of life?”
Start reviewing your own “Wheel of Life” with us. Considerations:
1. Define each distinction based on what is important to you
2. Rate and reflect without judgement
3. Start considering up to 2 – 3 goals. IMPORTANT: Do not neglect on building your strengths!
1. Define each distinction based on what is important to you
2. Rate and reflect without judgement
3. Start considering up to 2 – 3 goals. IMPORTANT: Do not neglect on building your strengths!
Romancing Success Ep. 2: Purpose
2020 provided us with a unique shared human experience. A time for reflection and recalibration. As we progress into the New Year, we have an opportunity focus in on our purpose and live with greater intentionality.
Three steps to defining your purpose:
1. PASSION - What are you passionate about? When you are most energised, what is present? How can you create more of these moments?
2. COMPETENCE – What makes you distinctive? What are your strengths and how can you better leverage them?
3. WORLD NEEDS – What do the human beings around you need from you now?
Three steps to defining your purpose:
1. PASSION - What are you passionate about? When you are most energised, what is present? How can you create more of these moments?
2. COMPETENCE – What makes you distinctive? What are your strengths and how can you better leverage them?
3. WORLD NEEDS – What do the human beings around you need from you now?
Romancing Success Ep1: “Embracing who you are”
A 5-episode video series, with Srividya and Constantine coaching you through 5 core steps to developing meaningful goals.
1. Embracing who you are
2. Defining your purpose
3. Goals: Wheel of life
4. Galvanising your mindset
5. Rewarding habits.
1. Embracing who you are
2. Defining your purpose
3. Goals: Wheel of life
4. Galvanising your mindset
5. Rewarding habits.
ROMANCING SUCCESS: HOLISTIC GOAL SETTING
This is an introductory video intended to coach you through 5 core steps to developing a routines-based goal setting process.
1. Embracing who you are
2. Defining your purpose
3. Goals: Wheel of life
4. Galvanising your mindset
5. Rewarding habits.
In Episode 1 on 20 January, join us in refining your own “Embracing who you are”.
Follow us on Instagram @peoplepriorityROMANCING SUCCESS: HOLISTIC GOAL SETTING
This is an introductory video intended to coach you through 5 core steps to developing a routines-based goal setting process.
1. Embracing who you are
2. Defining your purpose
3. Goals: Wheel of life
4. Galvanising your mindset
5. Rewarding habits.
In Episode 1 on 20 January, join us in refining your own “Embracing who you are”.
Follow us on Instagram @peoplepriority
1. Embracing who you are
2. Defining your purpose
3. Goals: Wheel of life
4. Galvanising your mindset
5. Rewarding habits.
In Episode 1 on 20 January, join us in refining your own “Embracing who you are”.
Follow us on Instagram @peoplepriorityROMANCING SUCCESS: HOLISTIC GOAL SETTING
This is an introductory video intended to coach you through 5 core steps to developing a routines-based goal setting process.
1. Embracing who you are
2. Defining your purpose
3. Goals: Wheel of life
4. Galvanising your mindset
5. Rewarding habits.
In Episode 1 on 20 January, join us in refining your own “Embracing who you are”.
Follow us on Instagram @peoplepriority
3 INGREDIENTS TO BUILDING RESILIENCE
1. Mindset:
1.1 Noticing negative thoughts without judgement.
1.2 Practicing thought disassociation. For example, if the negative thought is “I will fail” is to disassociate by saying, “I notice my mind saying to me that I will fail which is not fact based.”
2. Focus:
2.1 Anchoring to my core values and living them.
2.2 Focusing on what I can influence instead of being frustrated on what I cannot.
3. Action:
3.1 One small step – just do something. For example, make the phone call, or start the difficult conversation.
3.2 Create a peer-coaching situation to hold each other to account.
1.1 Noticing negative thoughts without judgement.
1.2 Practicing thought disassociation. For example, if the negative thought is “I will fail” is to disassociate by saying, “I notice my mind saying to me that I will fail which is not fact based.”
2. Focus:
2.1 Anchoring to my core values and living them.
2.2 Focusing on what I can influence instead of being frustrated on what I cannot.
3. Action:
3.1 One small step – just do something. For example, make the phone call, or start the difficult conversation.
3.2 Create a peer-coaching situation to hold each other to account.
THE MINDFUL LEADER
The most effective leaders take mindfulness seriously in 2 steps:
1. Self-awareness:
1.1 Being aware of their feelings and senses
1.2 Not judging or making assumptions about those feelings – just noticing them.
2. Awareness of others:
2.1 How they are “being”
2.2 Being intentionally present with those around them
2.3 Leaving a positive impact with those they interact with.
1. Self-awareness:
1.1 Being aware of their feelings and senses
1.2 Not judging or making assumptions about those feelings – just noticing them.
2. Awareness of others:
2.1 How they are “being”
2.2 Being intentionally present with those around them
2.3 Leaving a positive impact with those they interact with.
Plan for The Future by Being Present to Who You Are!
1. Be present to who you are: when we are not present to our unique being, we get stuck in limitations
2. Don’t get stuck in mental blockages – think possibility without limitations
3. Anchor to your values and how you can fully live them
4. Focus on 2-3 actions and bring them to life by fully expressing yourself without concern for impressing others.
2. Don’t get stuck in mental blockages – think possibility without limitations
3. Anchor to your values and how you can fully live them
4. Focus on 2-3 actions and bring them to life by fully expressing yourself without concern for impressing others.
In 2021, STOP TRYING TO IMPRESS AND START FULLY EXPRESSING YOURSELF!I
2020 has provided us a unique shared human experience that has resulted in reflection on the preciousness of life. For me, I have therefore embraced that life is not about impressing others – it IS about fully expressing myself.
Five steps to own your own self-expression:
1. What have you learned about the preciousness of life?
2. Embrace your strengths + what makes you unique
3. Write down the mental obstacles and negative stories
4. Con, get over yourself.
5. Action: Bring your strengths to life!
Wishing you a phenomenal 2021. Please do follow me on Instagram @PeoplePriority
Five steps to own your own self-expression:
1. What have you learned about the preciousness of life?
2. Embrace your strengths + what makes you unique
3. Write down the mental obstacles and negative stories
4. Con, get over yourself.
5. Action: Bring your strengths to life!
Wishing you a phenomenal 2021. Please do follow me on Instagram @PeoplePriority
Episode 4: The Beauty of Failure: Turning Loss Into Gain
In this episode, we would like you to consider when you perceived you previously failed and lost something, and the emotions that came with it. Then, as a result of that loss, what did you gain from it?
Mindsets on failure previously discussed:
1. Failing in a situation does not equate to me being a failure
2. Failure is temporary
3. The real fear is not the failure itself but the reactions of others
4. Past ≠ Future
5. We are not here to impress We are here to express
6. Accept and then get into action.
Mindsets on failure previously discussed:
1. Failing in a situation does not equate to me being a failure
2. Failure is temporary
3. The real fear is not the failure itself but the reactions of others
4. Past ≠ Future
5. We are not here to impress We are here to express
6. Accept and then get into action.
Reflect on Your Own Failure
Reflecting on the “beauty of your own failure”:
1. What was the perceived failure you experienced?
2. What did you learn and how did you grow as a result?
1. What was the perceived failure you experienced?
2. What did you learn and how did you grow as a result?
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